Posts Tagged ‘dating the unemployed’

I was having a conversation with my sister not too long ago about my dating prospects. I was explaining to her how I’m still not really ready to date yet because I’m still working on getting myself together. She asked me what I meant and I ran down a short list, with the main priority being acquiring employment. She was saying how I shouldn’t feel bad if I don’t have everything 100% together going into the dating scene basically because nobody is perfect and nobody ever really has it all together at one time. I expressed to her how I still felt like I need to have at least the basics together, and having a job is part of that. Mind you, my mama didn’t raise no fool. So I didn’t just save for a rainy day; I saved for a rainy season (and it’s a good thing I did). So I wouldn’t expect a man to take care of me financially, or anything like that. I’m still very much holding my own. It’s just the principle to me. I believe that if I expect certain things in a potential partner, I should be able to bring those same things to the table to match him.

I’ve been actively searching for a new job for about a year now and it’s been hard. It’s not just me. I know several people who are facing the same challenge. Blame it on the economy. Blame it on whatever you’d like. The fact remains that a lot of people are out of work right now. I know people who have had to move in with parents. Some have went back to school. Others have taken jobs way below their standards and capabilities. My question is, would you date someone who is unemployed? Of course there are always going to be bums who just never work and have no desire or motivation to find jobs. I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about a man/woman who has their head on straight and is just really facing a hard time at the moment. You see them actively searching and going on interviews or they’ve returned to school full-time. Would you date them or do you feel like their lack of employment will cause the relationship to suffer? Do you think they should place full priority and focus on the job search and just nix the fun dating stuff until they’re successful in that search?

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