She’s Just Not that Into You

Posted: August 23, 2012 in Single Men
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Do you remember that movie, He’s Just Not That Into You? It was geared more towards women who cling on to the idea and hope that the man they’ve had their eye on feels the same way about them. They miss all the signs and clues that he’s not actually interested. Well apparently this is not just an issue with females. Within this past week alone I’ve had conversations with two different men about this very topic. They expressed their uncertainties with me about being able to tell if the females they were dating were really as interested in them as they were.

Guys, I’m going to tell you just like I told one of the men I had these conversations with this week. If a woman is into you, you will know it. Even the shyest of the shyest woman will find ways to drop hints that let you know she’s interested. However, just in case you still feel like you’re unsure the following are just a few things to look out for that will let you know she may just not be interested in you.

  • No Communication: If you are the one initiating all the contact, she’s probably not into you. If she never calls or texts you first, it’s a clear sign that you’re really not on her mind. Sure, women may be polite and respond to your texts/calls if you initiate but you should never be the one always reaching out.
  • Buddy-Ol’ Friend-Ol’ Pal: If you ask a woman how she feels about you or where she sees your relationship going, and she says something like “I see us being really good friends”, yeah she’s probably not into you. Sometimes you won’t even have to ask the question. She’ll find some other way to let you know you’ve fallen into the friend zone. Don’t sit and dwell. The friend zone is not a bad place to be. A lot of couples start out as friends and blossom from there. Or she might have a gang of gorgeous friends that you may hit it off with better.
  • No Compliments: Okay, this may not apply with all women because some people in general just won’t throw you a bone no matter how good you look. But if a woman never tells you you’re handsome, cute, attractive, sexy, etc. she’s probably not attracted to you. She may never be attracted to you. Especially if you’re constantly giving her compliments and she never returns them. Sure, she might find you “nice” or “cool” but there’s a good chance she may not be into you in the same way you are into her.
  • Cancellations: This one really should be a no brainer but speaking from experience some men still don’t catch on. If a woman keeps cancelling dates on you or finding reasons why she can’t make a date with you, there is no question about it. She’s definitely not into you. No one is that busy. I promise :). I’d say after the second cancelled date or attempt at making a date, just leave it alone.

The point I’d like to leave you with is that it’s really not as hard as some men think it is to tell if a woman is into you or not. Read the signs. Don’t be in denial and just be honest with yourself. If a woman isn’t interested in you, it’s not the end of the world.

  1. […] too long after starting my blog I did a post entitled She’s Just Not That Into You, I was asked to do one for women but haven’t gotten around to it until now. Honestly, I didn’t […]

  2. thabutcha says:

    Wow. What guy hasn’t been through one or all of these scenarios?? You hit the nail on the head here!

  3. Ooooooooo when you get cancelled on multiple times….yep. That’s it for your hopes and dreams! Ooooooo Jewel can you do one for “He’s Just Not That Into You”? I need a refresher course.

  4. darcwonn1906 says:

    Well said.

    I have experienced quite a number of those situations in my lifetime. My thing was this: I read between the lines. I wasn’t going to be “resilient” and keep going back to that female. If a female wants to be with you, she will make time to be with you. Why make a priority out of someone that doesn’t even consider you a realistic option?

    • Just Jewel says:

      Right on! I don’t know why more men (or people in general actually) don’t use that same logic. I think sometimes people just like to cling on to hope instead of realizing that one person is not the only person out there to date.

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