Hear me loud and clear guys! EITHER YOU ARE SINGLE OR YOU ARE NOT! There is no in between. I remember a few years back a friend and I went to this carnival. We were standing in line so she could get some funnel cake. Two guys got in line behind us and one of them started hitting on me. I turned around and was pleasantly surprised at what I saw. So we started chatting but there was something a little strange. He was talking to me very sneakily. He looked almost scared like he had just escaped from prison and was nervous about getting caught or something. Just when we were about to exchange numbers this girl pops out the woodworks, gets in between us, and starts yelling in his face. I was sooooo confused. At first I thought she was just joking with him until she turned around to face me. That’s when I asked him if that was his girlfriend and he sheepishly said “yeah” as he looked down at his shoes. She was all ready to beat my ass next, poor me the innocent victim in all this (and she was a big one too). Thankfully no fights took place but could you imagine?
Fellas, it is so annoying to be lied to or led on. Don’t lie about being single please. It’s just not worth it. It just creates unnecessary aggravation and headache for all parties involved. If you have a girlfriend, you are not single. If you’re separated from your wife, you are not single. If you live with your baby’s mama, you are not single. The decision is yours to be single or not. No one holds you hostage in a relationship. So if you know you’re not ready to commit to one person, then don’t. For you married men, who are separated, close one chapter before you open another. Get that divorce finalized first before you start yelling from the mountaintops that you’re back on the market.
Not every woman can handle this kind of truth, but I have much more respect for the man who is open and honest letting me know he’s not ready to be exclusive yet and is dating multiple women. At least he is playing fair and allowing me the chance to decide whether I want to continue seeing him or not knowing all the facts.
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It is ridiculous what relationships suffer these days. “If you live with a [woman], you’re not single” haha 😀
I can say though, that even the man who tells me he is not ready to be exclusive, and yet wants to get into my pants, is not getting any respect from me. Adults should be able to take decisions and commitments. Otherwise, there’s an issue.
Just my thoughts 🙂
Thanks for commenting. I appreciate your insight. I still have respect for the man who lets me know he’s not interested in being exclusive and wants to get in my pants. Why? Because he makes it easier for me to weed him out amongst the “good ones”. Just because he wants to get in my pants doesn’t mean he’s going to. So I rather him be upfront than to send his representative the first few weeks/months and wasting my time until I find out he’s not even the man he was presenting himself to be. I agree that adults should be able to make decisions and commitments but unfortunately it doesn’t always work that way. So for those men who can’t or simply don’t want to make commitments, I rather him just be honest about it from the gate.
Yea true… It is much better that they are upfront about it. However, the fact that today’s society accepts this as a part of the norm is what I find disturbing. In the “old” days it would be disrespectful for a gentleman to approach a lady so brazenly.
But in today’s world, I agree that men should be more honest, and not lead women on.
Yeah, I understand where you’re coming from…