Where My Single Ladies At?

Posted: May 1, 2012 in Single Ladies
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So even though I got a few more people to vote (a whopping 7 in total lol), there was still a tie as far as what topic I should cover for May. I decided to just go with single ladies because it’s a topic that’s been irking me a little lately. So I figured I’d just go ahead and get it out the way.

Whenever I talk to friends I haven’t spoken to in a while, one of the first questions to leave their lips is always “So are you seeing anyone yet?” or “Do you have a boyfriend yet?” or “I hope the next time I talk to you, you’ll tell me you’re in a relationship.” My mother has even reported back to me that when people back home in New Jersey ask her about me, they also ask those questions. We get a good laugh out of it honestly. I went to dinner with some ladies a few weeks ago, complete strangers, who wanted to give me all the dating advice in the world. The funny thing was I didn’t ask for the advice. They automatically assumed that when I said I was single that I wanted to find a man…smh. It has gotten to the point where some have even assumed that I’ve switched over to play for the other team 😮 !

For the record, I still absolutely love men and the male anatomy :). I am single by choice…SURPRISE! I know this may come as a shock to some, but not every single woman is single because she can’t find a man. Some of us just have other priorities at the moment. But I’m not going to make this whole post about me. I just wanted to put myself out there for a minute to let the other single ladies out there know they’re not alone. Aside from pure nosiness, I think a lot of people like to ask about a single woman’s dating status because they automatically associate finding that special someone with being complete and whole. In my opinion, it should work the other way around. A person needs to feel complete and whole in themselves by themselves first! Looking for someone else to complete you isn’t what it’s about.

Of course there are a lot of single women out there who aren’t single by choice. They desperately want a man in their life, usually because they are trying to keep up with other people or because they think their biological clock is ticking. This shines through in their actions. Sometimes we let society or family and friends dictate how we should live our lives. I’m here to let you know it’s okay to set your own pace for your life. Whether your biological clock is ticking or not, God has the final say of if and when you’ll be blessed with a child anyway. I will be addressing the single women who are ready to date and find that special someone and what they may or may not be doing wrong. A lot of us single women are turning guys off without even realizing it.

In conclusion, I want to tell all my single ladies, whether by choice or not, to celebrate! Being single doesn’t have to be a gloomy stigma. I personally am enjoying this break from being in a relationship where I have to be worried about lying, cheating, keeping the spark in it, tiffs about nothing, drama, etc. Some people are blessed to find their special someone on the very first try. For the rest of us, it’s a journey. Just relax and enjoy the experiences along the way. And remember, the journey is pointless if you don’t learn anything from the experiences.

“Being single doesn’t mean you know nothing about love. Sometimes being solo is wiser than being in a false relationship.”

– Unknown Author

 “Not every single girl is searching, some are actually single and satisfied.”

– Unknown Author

“Single |sin-gle| (adjective) – Too fabulous to settle.” 

– Unknown Author

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